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Unmasking a Narcissist: How to Identify Covert Narcissist Traits and Navigate Toxic Dynamics
True narcissists are not interested in or even capable of real self-reflection. And definitely not change.
Thriving Through the Holidays: Taming Your People-Pleasing Tendencies
People pleasing is such a tricky thing to navigate. Especially over the holidays! There are so many people's expectations to manage and we can get so lost in those demands that we totally lose ourselves and end up not enjoying the season.
Navigating Infidelity During the Holidays: The Support You Actually Need
Whether the infidelity was first revealed around the holidays or you are living through one of the many “firsts” in the aftermath of finding out, it can be an incredibly painful season. One of the hardest parts for many people is the social stigma and expectations in the aftermath of an affair.
Breaking Free from the Narcissistic Cycle
Being in a relationship with a narcissist can be extremely traumatic. Narcissistic abuse is an insidious and crazy-making cycle that keeps the relationship sick and seriously injures the victim’s sense of self-worth.
Narcissistic Tendencies vs. Full-Blown Narcissist: What To Watch For
Narcissism exists on a spectrum and it can be helpful to identify if your partner has narcissistic tendencies. If they do, it doesn’t mean that they are a full-blown narcissist.
Surviving the Holidays with a Narcissist: Essential Tips to Keep Your Sanity
Dealing with the narcissist in your life is absolutely draining, especially over the holidays! Here are some things to remember.
2 types of infidelity & the healing that comes afterward
The main difference between physical and emotional infidelity in terms of healing is that often the unfaithful partner will be more defensive of and denying of an emotional affair. It is much more difficult to defend physical affairs, especially when there is explicit evidence.
Understanding EMDR & the benefits
EMDR (eye movement desensitization and reprocessing) is an evidence-based form of psychotherapy that works to help release the negative beliefs, emotions, and uncomfortable sensations stuck in the body associated with traumatic memories.
Common misconceptions about narcissism and codependency
It is always important to remember that someone with narcissistic tendencies and a full-blown narcissist are not the same thing. Narcissism exists on a spectrum. While some of the above list could feel like red flags, it is important to be able to distinguish the difference between healthy and unhealthy or relational and nonrelational behavior.
The most surprising thing about codependency
When you think about the fact that codependency develops as a way to protect yourself in a situation that your body felt was unsafe, it really takes away the shame and stigma of the word.
It could have been worse- so why am I struggling so much?
A lot of times those who experience little t trauma feel like what happened in their life could have been much worse, leading them to think “why am I struggling so much, my childhood was good, I never had anything major happen to me?”
Surprise…narcissists prefer boundary-less relationships
There are internal and external boundaries that can be helpful to keep in mind when dealing with the narcissists in your life or trying to set boundaries with a narcissist in general.
Domestic Violence isn’t only what you think…
Domestic abuse can show up in a number of ways that are all equally as damaging. Here are the 3 main types of domestic abuse explained.
5 Key Principles to healing after infidelity
Infidelity isn’t a death sentence to a relationship. Despite what is popularly touted in social circles. In fact, 57% of couples stay together post infidelity. The number one thing needed to heal from infidelity is that the partner who strayed from the relationship actually wants the marriage.
Understanding your inner child
Your inner child is the innocent, vulnerable, loving, expansive part of you that is damaged in one way or another by events in your childhood. Your inner child learns to adapt, protect and guard against future damage or negative events.
Why infidelity is never your fault.
‘What could I have done differently so that my partner would love me enough to be faithful?’ We know this is the ugly truth of infidelity. But we also know that infidelity is never your fault
Our Guide to Set Boundaries with a Narcissist
Our bodies automatically remember what felt dangerous in the past in order to help keep us safe in the present. We wanted to help you better understand narcissism and how to set boundaries with the narcissist in your life